THE JOMAG TAKE #034 Your Love Language

THE JOMAG TAKE #034 Your Love Language

Business as it really is.

What’s Your Love Language?

(And Why It Explains How You Work, Lead, and Get Hurt)

We talk a lot about skills, IQ, and performance.

But we rarely talk about how people feel valued.

That’s where love languages come in.

A love language is simply how you give and receive care, appreciation, and connection.

It’s not just romantic. It shows up at work, in friendships, and in leadership.

When your love language is met, you feel seen.

When it’s ignored, you feel drained even if everything looks “fine.”

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The 5 Love Languages 

1. Words of Affirmation – you feel valued when people say it

2. Quality Time – you feel valued when people are present

3. Acts of Service – you feel valued when people help or do

4. Gifts – you feel valued through tangible thoughtfulness

5. Physical Touch – you feel valued through appropriate closeness (high-fives, pats on the back, presence)

Now let’s make this practical.

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The Jomag Love Language Test

(Don’t overthink. Answer fast.)

Read each pair. Pick A or B, the one that would make you feel more appreciated.

1.

A. Someone thanks me publicly

B. Someone quietly helps me finish a task

2.

A. Someone spends uninterrupted time listening to me

B. Someone gives me something thoughtful

3.

A. Someone notices and says, “You did great.”

B. Someone shows up for me when I’m overwhelmed

4.

A. A sincere message or note

B. A hug, pat on the back, or physical presence (appropriate)

5.

A. Someone clears their schedule to be with me

B. Someone surprises me with something small but meaningful

6.

A. Being told I’m trusted and appreciated

B. Someone taking something off my plate without being asked

7.

A. A handshake, tap, or shared space that feels supportive

B. A well-timed gift or token

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Tally your answers

Mostly A → Words of Affirmation or Quality Time

Mostly B → Acts of Service or Gifts

If Physical presence mattered most → Physical Touch

Now let’s decode what that means.

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What Your Result Says About You

Words of Affirmation

You are motivated by recognition.

At work:

• silence feels like disapproval

• you thrive with feedback

• you shut down when effort is unseen

Leadership tip:

Say it out loud. Appreciation isn’t assumed it’s fuel.

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Quality Time

You value presence over performance.

At work:

• you hate rushed conversations

• you feel ignored in chaotic environments

• you’re loyal to people who give you time

Leadership tip:

Be present. One focused conversation beats ten messages.

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Acts of Service

You value help more than praise.

At work:

• words don’t impress you

• action builds trust

• you often over-give and burn out

Leadership tip:

Ask for help. You don’t have to earn care by carrying everything.

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Gifts

You value thoughtfulness.

At work:

• small gestures matter

• you notice effort behind the gesture

• you feel hurt when people forget

Leadership tip:

It’s not about cost. It’s about remembering.

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Physical Touch (appropriate contexts only)

You value connection and presence.

At work:

• you read energy easily

• you feel disconnected in cold cultures

• you thrive in teams with warmth

Leadership tip:

Human connection matters. Culture is felt, not announced.

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Why this matters (especially at work)

Most conflict isn’t about performance.

It’s about unmet emotional needs.

We give love in our language,

then get hurt when others don’t receive it.

Knowing your love language:

• helps you ask better

• helps you read others better

• reduces unnecessary hurt

• improves leadership and teamwork

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JOMAG VERDICT

Your love language explains:

• how you feel valued

• why some environments drain you

• why certain leaders inspire you—and others don’t

Understand it.

Communicate it.

And don’t assume everyone feels loved the way you do.

Do you know mine is? 

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JOMAG PRESS

Business as it really is.